148: You Deserve the Best In Life: Get More Pleasure, Joy, and Creative Flow with Self-Improvement Guide and Multi-Orgasmic Living Expert Antonia Hall

Robert Plank 0:00 Robert Plank Show Episode 148. You deserve the best in life, get more pleasure, joy and creative flow with self improvement guide and multi orgasmic living experts, Antonia Hall. Hey, everyone, and welcome back to the Robert Plank show where we talk about making money working from home and dealing with all that inner conflict and improving that inner game. Today's guest is Antonia Hall. She's a renowned award winning author, self improvement guide and multi orgasmic living expert. Her teachings offer ways to bring more pleasure, joy, creative flow and meaning into one's life in and out of the bedroom. Oh, no. So we could this interview can go all kinds of directions. How are things? Antonia? Things are wonderful.

Unknown Speaker 0:50 How about yourself?

Robert Plank 0:51 super fantastic. Looking forward to the cool weekend, but also had a great week. So could you tell us about who you are and what you do and what makes you different in special?

Speaker 2 1:03 Sure. So I am an entrepreneur myself, I run a communications business, and I am an award winning Best Selling Author.

Robert Plank 1:12 Awesome About what? Well, my

Speaker 2 1:14 book is the ultimate guide to a multi orgasmic life. And it's how to bring that joyful, creative juiciness that is there for the taking into every area of your life.

Robert Plank 1:28 So how do you do that?

Speaker 2 1:30 Well, you know, because you're focused on entrepreneurs, and it's wonderful it when you are an entrepreneur, it's hopefully you're living your dream, you're doing what you love, you get to create for yourself, which is amazing. But it also requires wearing a lot of hats. And that can keep you super busy. So there are a lot of techniques in my book that help with balancing and mindset mindset and visualization are critical tools to use.

Robert Plank 2:01 So and I agree with that. I think that I don't know, like the I didn't realize how important the mindset stuff was, especially in you know, working from home and setting your own goals and motivating yourself. I didn't realize how important that was until maybe a few years ago, I just kind of thought that, you know, it was either built in or I just had to kind of wait until the you know, the productivity and the flow state and all that kind of stuff with click. So I mean, could you tell us about that mindset stuff? And and what what's important specifically for I mean, for happiness, and for the flow state and all that kind of cool stuff.

Speaker 2 2:36 Yeah, absolutely. So for me, I find it so intriguing. The physics behind it is that, you know, physicists have told us that the universe is comprised of a unifying substance, of which we're all apart. And the Eastern philosophy has told us that for 1000s, and 1000s, of years, and that's important, because thoughts are information carrying energy. And David bombs hologram concept all tells us, you know that every part of that hole is within each piece of us. So we are a part of that. And that means that if we can see ourselves as the CO creators that we are, you'll see how what you're thinking and what you believe to be true, is mirrored in your everyday life,

Robert Plank 3:31 then what kind of way, so

Speaker 2 3:33 you've got to look at like, What's going right, and there are a lot of things that can get thrown at you, when you're an entrepreneur, seeing those challenges as opportunities for growth, will completely shift everything and put you back in the place of power.

Robert Plank 3:54 So can you give me an example of that either with maybe yourself or someone else where maybe, maybe you or they were stuck in a certain kind of way of thinking or certain kind of stay or just couldn't crack a problem. And then and then you use these some of these tools to get them that where they needed to go?

Speaker 2 4:12 Absolutely. So if you have a mindset that tells you that life is going to be full of challenges, you're more apt to create challenges in your life. If you are have a mindset that says even the little bumps in the road are just opportunities for growth, then you can shift the way that you see and perceive everything is perception. The way that things come into your life, you can see it and say Oh, hey, this is an opportunity for me to learn how I'm relating with people, for example. We can come into contact with people that have like a negative attitude, and that brings us down. So then is that someone that we want be doing business with.

Robert Plank 5:03 Okay, that makes sense. And so is this the kind of thing that you've been using in your own life? Is it something that you use day to day?

Speaker 2 5:11 Absolutely, it's so important to look at your own mindset. And to use visualization tools, top athletes, pay experts to take them through visualizations, business managers, how people use visualization tools, because they work, being able to see your end goal and stepping into it is a really, really good tool to have.

Robert Plank 5:37 So can you kind of walk me through an example of this visualization thing?

Speaker 2 5:41 Sure. So if you know where you're going, you're more apt to be able to get there. So being able to every day, just spend a couple of minutes seeing your end goal, everything is created from the inside, and it's reflected on the outside. So that's our thinking, and our the way that we communicate with people, if we constantly are telling people, oh, this isn't working, this isn't working, guess what, it's not able, it's not going to be likely to work out. So being able to, to shift that is going to empower you to create what you want, and knowing where you want to go is an important part of that.

Robert Plank 6:28 Okay, so I mean, so say, say that my, my goal is to say, like double my income, or to maintain the same income with half the time or something like that. So what would I do? Specifically, as far as this visual visualization thing? Is it like, a daily thing every time I wake up in the morning? Is it multiple times a day? Do I have to create like a dream board or a vision board? What do I do?

Speaker 2 6:52 All of that is helpful, I would at least spend a couple of times a day, going into your own mind. And seeing yourself already there. What does that look like? What does that feel like? See yourself already in that accomplished goal?

Robert Plank 7:14 And then what,

Speaker 2 7:15 and then take actions and know that you're going to get there and know that that the road may not look like what you think it should look like to get there. But trust that you will get there, you've got to have that that success mindset within yourself.

Robert Plank 7:33 Okay, I mean, that makes sense. And so is that is that the only tool is that the main tool is that one of many tools,

Speaker 2 7:41 I mean, one of many tools, I would recommend getting in touch with breath work, breath work is one of the most powerful underused tools because we think, oh, the body's breathing for me, like I don't need to think about breathing, it's like happening. But if you're stressed out some really slow, deep breaths will help bring that balance back. And balance, especially when you're an entrepreneur is really, really crucial. You've got to be able to stay in your point of power, which is always in the present moment. So anchoring yourself in with breath. It seems so simple, right? But it's actually incredibly powerful. And if you are totally wiped out, and you've hit that wall in the afternoon, using short quick breaths in and out through the nose will actually energize you like in a minute. Bam.

Robert Plank 8:43 So So if I'm hearing this, right, so as far as this, this breathwork kind of stuff goes. So if I want to, if I breathe like the real fast nose breath, that's to give, like, give me alert, give me energize and then what does the What does the deep rescue mean? Is that like call me down or what is

Speaker 2 9:03 down? You know how when you're all stressed out and people say is take a few deep breaths? Oh, yeah. Because it works. And if you're not in that chaos state of being tripped out, oh my god, all this stuff is happening right now. If you just stop and take a few deep breaths and say okay, this is what's happening, how can I deal with it, you're going to be able to deal with it much better.

Robert Plank 9:29 So how do I have these tools and things like that with visualization and the breath work and all that? How do I know if I can be at my best because like, because I think that I don't know, it's like if I'm, if I'm too relaxed from too happy, or I'm too chilled out, then I won't be a guest like, like, worked up enough to to actually, you know, be productive and knock out the things that I need to knock out but then I feel like if I'm too productive for too long or too intense, then I get I get really unhappy. That hurts me over time. So I mean, have you come across it like that? If you have a solution for that kind of problem?

Speaker 2 10:05 Yeah. So what you're describing is really an important question we all ask ourselves when we're running a business, and those two energies are then the masculine and the feminine energy, that masculine out in the world, make it happen, do it, do it, do it and that feminine, I'm happy, I'm relaxed and trusting I'm receptive. And being able to balance the two of using that feminine wisdom and intuition place. And the out in the world place of masculine energy is when you can blend the two, that's when you're going to be at your best.

Robert Plank 10:45 So how do you blend those two things? You, you have

Speaker 2 10:49 to continually come into balance with yourself and check in with yourself. Where's my mindset? Where is my body? What am I you know, what am I thinking and feeling right now? Is this of service to my end goal, back to that visualization point, right? Knowing what you want and where you want to go? And then asking yourself, Am I on that path? Or am I letting myself get tripped out? tripped up over things?

Robert Plank 11:13 And what do I do? If I'm not on track? What do I do? If I'm not where I want to be?

Speaker 2 11:20 Right? So then you have to reset yourself and ask, okay, what's going on with the mental state? What am I believing? What am I? Where am I getting myself tripped up? This doesn't feel imbalance? Where am I not trusting the process? It's so important to be able to trust yourself and the process. Because you're the you're now the boss, you're the author, right? That's part of entrepreneurship is like, it's now up to you. So being able to trust yourself to get you there. And trusting the process? Are you doing the best that you can? Are you working towards goals? And then are you allowing for that's that feminine energy again? Because it can't be all the masculine? Go, go go? There has to be that balance of Okay, I've put a lot out there, and I'm going to trust that it comes back to me. Do you know what I'm talking about?

Robert Plank 12:14 Yeah, I think so. Just like like, retaking the inventory and reassessing, I guess. So it I mean, is there, is there like any kind of big secret? Or is it just a matter of using these tools? And kind of kind of repeating this and doing the important things every day?

Speaker 2 12:33 I think it's, I think that it is I mean, the more tools you have in the tool chest, the more you're going to be able to live to your greatest potential, and then remembering to rely on them, you know, we get so busy and in that in that accomplishment type space, am I getting there? Am I getting there. And that can throw you off balance if you're not giving yourself the self care. So stopping and treating yourself, right? Because, boy, when you're running a business, you can get so caught up in the doing the doo doo doo doo doo, that you're not taking care of yourself, and then you're really not going to, you're not going to have the long haul of getting to that end goal.

Robert Plank 13:23 That makes sense. And I when you mentioned that it kind of made me think back to maybe 1015 years ago when I was in college. And I would I mean, I would have the college lifestyle, you know, I would stay up all night overnight. And I will you know, do a homework assignment. Last minute, I thought I was having fun, just kind of flying by the seat of my pants. But doing that and doing the business stuff, it really kind of caught up to me after a while. And it was the weirdest thing because I always thought that, well if I just wanted to be productive, or if I wanted to, you know power through some project, I could just, you know, put in 20 hours straight or put in, you know, overnight straight, but then, and I just I noticed that that might have worked maybe when I was 20. But then now that I'm in my 30s, I've noticed that every time I try to do that, I might be able to do that all nighter or might be able to, you know, put in 12 hours at a time. But then the next several days are just dead days are just days where I'm just totally burned out. And I have to almost work for, you know, two or three days afterwards to get back on track. And then I calculate If only I'd put in, you know, two hours, four hours a day times X number of days, then I would have I would have gotten to my goal or I would have finished what I needed to finish and it would have been more more careful would have been more attention to detail. And I wouldn't have felt like I had to go through this huge ordeal of pushing myself too hard having to recover then having to get back.

Speaker 2 14:51 Exactly. It's so important to stay in balance with yourself and just stop and say all right, I've done everything. I can For now, and I need to go back to taking care of myself.

Robert Plank 15:05 So have you I mean, is this the kind of thing where like, you work with entrepreneurs, is that right?

Speaker 2 15:10 I tend to work with visionaries and entrepreneurs. Yes.

Robert Plank 15:13 Okay, so with those people that you that you work with, what common problem are you seeing that they all have, what's the number one problem, it's usually

Speaker 2 15:22 the lack of self care, it's usually not stopping to do things that bring pleasure into your life. So the reason that my book is based on the Ultimate Guide to a multi orgasmic life on our sexuality is it sexuality is one of the most potent energies that we can tap into. And it's not just the one on one sexual or by yourself, it's tapping into pleasure through all of your senses. And when you are able to go back to finding pleasure in the way that it feels when you're laying in a hot bath, or when you're in the shower, instead of being caught up in how did that meeting go yesterday, or, oh my god, I had this meeting coming up and I hope I you know, whatever, you're letting your mind trickbot coming back to that present moment of taking care of yourself, of feeling the water on your skin and choose being present with that is so powerful, and then learning to bring your own energy up through your body will charge and invigorate you because sexual energy is creative, and it's juicy, and the more you're moving it through your body, the more energy you'll have.

Robert Plank 16:45 That makes sense and as especially like like kind of like you mentioned there like if it's if and then the end of a long day and I'm having a bath I need to kind of kind of forget or put aside or just shrug off the baggage of the day. Like those those kinds of things helped me to like unwind and reset and reflect and all that to kind of just just kind of turn off the all the outside crap,

Speaker 2 17:08 self care, it is so underrated and it will the more that you give that to yourself that moment of relaxation like you just said, the moment of really being present with I'm eating this food and you're tasting it and you're there in that moment with it, the more you feel taken care of and the more energy you'll have to give to your projects and getting to those end goals

Robert Plank 17:35 that makes a lot of sense and as I'm hearing you explain this it's almost like the the I mean I might make myself blush or something here but it's almost like if you're you know if you're in like a sexual woman again like if it's if it's with someone else or with yourself there's that there's that really important factor of just being there and not and not you know not being somewhere else and not letting whatever outside stuff or whatever stuff that's running on in the back of your head distract you from the current situation and in the same way that if I'm if I'm at the computer or I'm doing you know something that needs needs doing writing programming, messing with a web page, something like that, it's kind of it's almost like the same there's that same quality that that's required there I've just having that 100% focus be in the moment not let the other stuff distract you at least that's that's how I feel

Speaker 2 18:25 yes Robert that's so so important and it will keep you in your point of power and the more that you stay balanced in that moment and just like okay, this is what I need to do right now. The and trusting that it unfolds right because mindset again is so important the more that you're going to be able to get through things and find that it moves through faster and with greater ease.

Robert Plank 18:50 I mean at first glance when we first started talking today it almost sounded like like like kind of spiritual like almost like hippie kind of stuff but the more you talk about it the more it makes sense and the more the more I'm hearing that it's this really important thing that a lot of people need to either do or discover for the first time or be reminded of because it's I just keep I keep thinking back through all the times when I thought that that things were okay right I thought that things were balanced and balanced I thought that things were handled and so many times if if things were just out of whack then I would think things would be okay in the moment but then I might have a whole week of just zero productivity or just feel you know really sad I feel really rundown because of the lack of that self care and the lack of fixing problems before they became problems.

Unknown Speaker 19:41 Yeah,

Robert Plank 19:42 so can you tell us about um, about this book so you mentioned it a couple of times you have this is multi-orgasmic books you can you tell us? Well, I mean it's it's different from our usual our usual topics, but that's perfectly okay. So can you tell us what this books about and what led you to create it

Speaker 2 19:59 so um, I was living in Los Angeles. And it's a very crazy place to live, I was stressed out from all the traffic and the harried energy around the all the time. And so I started trying to find tools to help me find balance, and kind of my inner peace because I knew that I was better if I was coming from that place. And the more I started using these tools and learning about new ones, because people not know this, this is amazing. It's transformative. And so when I went back to grad school, they said, What do you want to study and I said, I want to help people make peace with their sexuality and these tools around our inherent sexuality, because it's a part of nature of which we're all a part. And give people these tools so that, that they can find that balance and joy. And, boy, it really puts you in the zone. I think we've hopefully all had experiences, where we've gotten in touch with our sexuality. And then we just feel so in the zone, the next day, we're happy, and we're in the zone, and we're creative, and we're juicy. But that's there for the taking all the time. So that's how I came up with the Ultimate Guide to a multi orgasmic life.

Robert Plank 21:18 Awesome. And so you have the book, and then do you do any other kind of stuff. As far as the business you built? Do you do like coaching and stuff like that?

Speaker 2 21:28 I do sometimes do coaching. And, um, I just turned the book into an audio book. So you can have me read the book to you, if you're like commuting or something like that. It's very accessible. It's just a couple of pages, and then an exercise a couple pages and exercise. And I'll give you tools that the more you implement, the more to will empower you and help you get through this as a better version of you.

Robert Plank 21:54 Awesome, I know, that's what I want. And so so I mean, that about some of the tools that you mentioned so far, and that you mentioned in this talk, I mean, there's that visualization thing, there's the breathwork stuff, there's the the self care, is there any like One Last Tool you want to throw there in the mix, so that people have different tools, or those three things enough for now, I think

Speaker 2 22:19 just remember that you deserve the best in life, and you're creating it as you go along. sustain your power and trust yourself and take care of yourself so that you can be at your best.

Robert Plank 22:32 Awesome, that's a good message. And and I think that as we were talking, what I was trying to try to think of is, you know, there, there have been times when I've been way too stressed out at home, and then I went on, I'd go on vacation to like Hawaii or the beach or something, and then get really relaxed, but then kind of not want to go back or have a hard time getting back into that back into the flow state. And so so what you've described here is that maybe the maybe the problem was instead of letting things go get super bad, so that we need a vacation or a break or a reset, to use these tools to have the balance and to manage things so that we can have every day be one of those days that has not only the happiness, but the flow state and the productivity as well. So like that, that complete fulfillment, is that right?

Unknown Speaker 23:19 Yes, that is absolutely right. Awesome. I

Robert Plank 23:22 mean, glad to hear it. And I like these tools that you share with us. And could you tell us where people can find your book, find your audio book and find the websites that you creates, they can find out more about you The

Speaker 2 23:35 Ultimate Guide to a multi orgasmic life ad Antonia hall.com

Robert Plank 23:39 perfect shortened to the point gets you there. Antonio Hall calm so thanks for stopping by the show Antonia is about not just how to I mean, I guess the multi-orgasmic component is for people to go and get your book but as far as the simple stuff to, to kind of get back on that track to have a more I guess self aware live visualization breathwork self care, and the book is the ultimate guide to a multi orgasmic life. So Antonio Hall calm, and thanks Antonia for stopping by the show.

Unknown Speaker 24:11 Thank you, Robert.

Robert Plank 24:13 Did you enjoy our discussion with Antonia today. I hope you did. Go to Robert plank.com slash iTunes and click the subscribe button to make sure you never miss another episode.